Loss isn’t always about the loss of a loved one. Sometimes it’s the loss of a career, a friendship, a relationship or even the version of yourself you thought you once knew. When this loss happens it can feel like the ground falls out beneath you. Suddenly life looks different and you’re left to try and navigate the emotional damage.
The thing with grief is that it isn’t confined to losing someone or something. Grief follows loss no matter what form it takes and it’s not something you can just “get over.” The pain can be intense. Feelings of deep sadness, helplessness, guilt and anger, all swirling around, often leaving you unsure of what to do next. You are allowed to grieve in your own way, it is unique to you. You are allowed to feel the full weight of all your emotions. This is part of being human, part of being you.
The Emotional Impact of Loss🌿
When you lose something or someone important it can feel like part of you is gone. You may feel lost and unsure of who you are. The grief is real, even if others don’t understand it the same way. It’s your journey through grief, it’s personal and individual.
A lost career isn’t just about losing pay each week, it takes away a piece of your identity. A broken friendship isn’t easy to lose, it can leave you questioning your worth and your sense of self and a one-sided relationship can make you feel unappreciated and invisible.
The loss of self is often quiet. It happens gradually over time as we forget who we are in the midst of trying to be everything for everyone else.
Grief doesn’t just happen after death, it can come after anything that takes a piece of you away.
Grieving in a Healthy Way🌿
It’s tempting to try to push the pain away, to tell yourself to “move on.” But grief doesn’t work that way. It’s messy. It’s unpredictable. Sometimes, it hits you when you least expect it. It’s important to let yourself feel the hurt. Allow yourself to feel angry, sad or confused, whatever comes up. You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re human and you’re you.
🌿 Give Yourself Permission to Feel: Don’t rush the process. Take it one day at a time.
🌿 Express Yourself: Whether it’s writing in a journal, talking to someone you trust, or even just crying, let it out. Bottling up your emotions only prolongs the pain.
🌿 Be Gentle with Yourself: It’s okay not to have all the answers. Healing is messy, and it’s okay if you don’t feel okay. One day at a time, just get through today.
Rebuilding After Loss🌿
Rebuilding after loss can feel like an impossible task. But it starts with showing up for yourself. One small step at a time. It’s okay to not have it all figured out yet. It’s okay to take things day by day.
🌿 Take Care of Yourself: You can’t rebuild if you’re running on empty. Prioritise your health, rest, and self care.
🌿 Reach Out for Support: You don’t have to go through this alone. Talk to a friend, a counsellor or a support group. Let others help carry the burden.
🌿 Find a Way to Remember: Sometimes you can find peace in remembering, a photo in a special place or perhaps the words of a song. Something that means a lot to you.
Final Thoughts: Healing Takes Time🌿
Loss changes you, but it doesn’t define you. The pain you’re feeling is a reflection of how much you cared, how deeply you loved and how deeply you are capable of healing. Being sensitive is a beautiful thing.
At Asri Counselling, I am here for you, whether you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one , a career, a relationship or simply the loss of your own sense of direction. Together, we can explore the pain, find meaning and rebuild a new path forward.
You don’t have to carry this burden alone. Healing takes time and you are not alone in this journey.🌿
