There are moments in life when you pause, look around, and wonder: “Where did I go?”
Maybe you’ve poured so much of yourself into your relationships, your work, or simply surviving the day-to-day that you no longer recognise the person staring back at you in the mirror. Maybe you’ve shaped yourself to fit expectations—those of family, a partner, or the world—only to wake up feeling lost and disconnected from the core of who you are.
How Do You Know When You’ve Drifted Away from Yourself?
Disconnection doesn’t always show up in obvious ways. It can be a quiet slow drift. You might notice it in:
🌿 Feeling like you’re just “going through the motions”
🌿 Making decisions based on what others want rather than what feels right for you
🌿 Feeling like you’ve lost or can’t remember your passions or your creativity
🌿 Losing yourself in a relationship, prioritising someone else’s needs while neglecting your own
🌿 Feeling like you don’t quite fit in your own life anymore
If any of this feels familiar, take a deep breath. This is not the end of your story….it’s the beginning of coming home to yourself….because you are here and you are questioning where you are.
The Healing Power of Stillness
I believe healing can start from stillness. The kind of stillness that is silence. No distractions, no phone, no expectations….just you?
It might feel uncomfortable at first. Silence can bring up thoughts and feelings we’ve been pushing away. But it is in this space that we begin to reconnect with our true self.
🌿 We notice what we’ve been wishing for
🌿 We remember what truly brings us happiness
🌿 We hear the quiet voices inside ourselves start to speak up
Steps to Reconnect with Yourself
Reconnecting isn’t about fixing yourself because you are not broken. It’s about gently rediscovering the parts of you that have been waiting to be seen again.
1. Write Yourself Back Home 🌿
Journaling can be a beautiful way to hear your own voice again. Try reflecting on:
“Who was I before the world told me who to be?
“What brings me deep happiness?”
“What is something my heart is trying to tell me?”
2. Find Your Quiet Moments 🌿
Stillness doesn’t have to mean sitting cross-legged on a meditation cushion (though that works too). It can be a slow morning walk, sipping tea in the afternoon sun, or sitting under a tree and breathing deeply. Let yourself be in the moment, without needing to do anything.
3. Create, Without Judgment 🌿
Maybe you used to love painting, singing, dancing, or writing stories as a child. Maybe you stopped because you thought you weren’t good enough. But creativity isn’t about perfection, it’s about expression. Let yourself create freely, just for the fun of it and see where this leads.
4. Reclaim Your Space in Relationships 🌿
If you’ve lost yourself in a relationship, ask yourself:
“Am I showing up as my true self, or am I shrinking to fit in?”
“Do I feel seen, heard, and valued?”
“What do I need to feel whole again?”
Healthy relationships allow you to be fully you, not a smaller version of yourself.
5. Practice Radical Self-Acceptance 🌿
The journey back to yourself is not about becoming someone new, it’s about embracing the person you already are. Every version of you, the tired you, the unsure you, the hopeful you. Each version deserves love.
Coming Home to Yourself
You are not lost. You are still here, waiting to find yourself again.
At Asri Counselling, I hold space for you to find your way back, gently, at your own pace. Healing is not a destination, but a journey and every small step you take toward yourself is a step toward finding peace.
You are worthy of that peace. You always have been. 🌿✨
